How do I have an awesome partnership with my spouse?

bizcipleship convergence kingdom couple lemon for lovers May 07, 2024

The Hebrew and Christian scriptures set a high bar for couples partnering together. When I read idiotic comments about the bible being anti-women and how women should be subject to men I want to throw up. That’s a pretty strong statement, I know, but the ignorance of people inside and outside the Church on this topic is mind-boggling. We are designed, husbands and wives, to partner with each other. This was and is Plan A. Let me break it down simply:


1. Adam and Eve received a joint mandate to work together in a broad scope of discovering and restoring God’s order and design to the planet.

2. They messed up and one of the consequences was this: Eve had to report to Adam: this was Plan B.

3. A second Adam came, his name was Jesus, and he came to fix things back to Plan A. Sadly most people of faith still live under Plan B while others are ticked-off at God for being anti-women. Nothing could be further from the truth.


God created Eve as an equal and more powerful ally, one with the ability to rescue, to help and to be strong. It was unthinkable that Adam could do the job without her, not as a subservient assistant, but as a 100% partner. Yet many couples do not even contemplate working together.


Once we have figured out that God wants couples to partner we must find enduring ways to make sure our spouses are invited, welcomed, drawn into a process of joint discovery. I tell husbands to keep an empty chair for their wives in the business.


And if you want to be a kingdom couple it helps to have a shared kingdom purpose. As it happens, some find that the stage in life when they seem to have the margin to tackle these topics is also the season of Re-choosing your Spouse (covered in Convergence as one of the 7 Seasons.) So, clear thinking on marriage, a shared purpose, figuring out how to work together and a deep dive into re-choosing our spouse... these go a long way to having an awesome partnering between wife and husband.


Interested in finding out more? Follow these links:

  1. LEMON for Lovers
  2. Convergence
  3. Bizcipleship for Kingdom Couples